Waiting for Mr. Right?

Em-pow-er-ment [noun]: the process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling one’s life and claiming one’s rights.

The word, empowerment, holds a different meaning for every one of us. Throughout our lifetime, there have been, and will be, life events that make every one of us feel empowered as a woman.

I remember being in my late twenties, fresh out of a relationship with a guy who, at the time, I thought was my “Mr. Forever” – boy, am I glad I was wrong about that! Sorry, Mr. NOT Forever, but my husband is my soulmate, my true Mr. Forever.

I remember feeling ashamed, embarrassed, and downright alone when that relationship ended. I did what all women do: I kept asking myself, “what is wrong with me – why can’t I find MY “Mr. Right” and stop getting sidetracked with Mr. Right Now? But, what took precedence over the angst of not finding Mr. Right was the longing desire to start a family of my own.

I already had the daunting diagnosis of PCOS lingering over me, and now I was in my late twenties, and SINGLE. At this moment of time, I feared I would never have children of my own. My family and friends looked at me like I was crazy when I expressed my feelings of fear. But, none of them was a fertility nurse. They have never sat across from a woman with tear-filled eyes because she too chose to wait for Mr. Right, but her Mr. Right didn’t come along until her late thirties and trying to start a family in a woman’s late thirties comes with many challenges.

So, I did the single most empowering thing I have ever done before in my life. In my most vulnerable state, I chose to freeze my eggs for my future self.

I remember waking up from anesthesia after my egg retrieval and feeling liberated. I, a twenty-seven-year-old woman, proactively decided to take control of her very own future. Wow, who was I becoming?! But, I knew deep down inside who I was becoming. I was becoming the woman I always knew I could become. The strong, confident, career-oriented, SINGLE woman who just made the smartest decision for her future family.

I left the fertility office that day knowing I would be a mother one day. I knew that because I had eighteen mature eggs frozen that each had great potential to become one of my children someday.

I felt EMPOWERED in a way I have never felt before.

I just needed to find my Mr. Right. Crazy enough, my Mr. Right came walking back into my life a few months after my egg freezing procedure.

Much love,

​Bridget